Managing Conflict in Remote Working and Learning – A Podcast

I recently got a chance to talk to a wonderful colleague from a long time previous project that my sister had set up in California.  It was a tremendous opportunity to work with individuals all over the country and envision new ways and possibilities to integrate learning, politics and business. Tony Reeves,  and Phil Gomm ...
Strategies For Adjusting to the New Normal

Strategies For Adjusting to the New Normal

Photo by Amat Martínez Vilà on Unsplash Adjusting to a new normal is going to require some self-awareness and it will utilize your ability to discover what is best for you. Now is the time to put into practice your best self. Discovering what that ‘best self’ needs will be your new learning curve. Find ...

How Do We Stay in the Room When Conflict Arises?

How do we stay in the room when something difficult happens and hold relationship? https://www.francescaanastasi.com/podcast/conflict-resolution-techniques ...

Manage You to Manage Others

Mental Health Minute #18 – Manage You to Manage Others When someone is anger, stressed or overwhelmed you can add to their stress by telling them to stop it, or calm down. The quickest way to help someone manage their intense feeling is for you first to manage your own feeling. Photo by Sebastian Herrmann ...

Big Feeling Big Movement

When you are having a big feeling, like fear, anger or excitement, your body will have a lot of energy. You need to choose some strategies to remove that energy. Use your big muscles — run, sprint, push, pull, dance! Move first, think later. Photo by Alora Griffiths on Unsplash ...
Crisis Shows Up in Your Addictions and Distractions

Crisis Shows Up in Your Addictions and Distractions

Photo by Tobias Tullius on Unsplash Any chronic distraction creates an artificial balance in your wellbeing. When you train your brain to continuously avoid painful felt experiences, you guarantee that you will repeat the crisis. Several years ago I was training for a half marathon and I developed Achilles tendonitis. I really wanted to race, ...
THE PARADOX OF STILLNESS - 5 THINGS TO DO IN CRISIS

THE PARADOX OF STILLNESS - 5 THINGS TO DO IN CRISIS

Photo by Olivia Bauso on Unsplash My sister, like most of us, struggles to trust the sitting still. It may be the simplest and most difficult task which crisis commands of us. Yet, I can promise you, that if we continue in our doing, we will simply be spinning our wheels feeling only more depleted ...
Your Brain on Repetition

Your Brain on Repetition

When I was a teenager, I used to bake cookies all the time.  Hard to believe now, as I am continually teased about my poor baking skills, but back then, baking was something I did that comforted me.    There was the occasional mishap like the time I forgot to put in the baking soda ...

Fear is Easy

Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do.  Remember our rule of thumb: The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it. Steven Pressfield I believed, for most of my adult life, that my ...
Quick Fire Neural Pathways – Helping Our Brains Wire for Compassion

Quick Fire Neural Pathways – Helping Our Brains Wire for Compassion

A fourteen-year-old girl, “Wendy” has been shunned by her social circle for having slandered another high profile fifteen-year-old girl. “Samantha”. Samantha has rallied all of her friends and has now started a social media campaign that essentially humiliates Wendy. She has posted false information about Wendy and numerous other girls have ...
Your Children Will Embarass You

Your Children Will Embarass You

Easy choices. Hard life.  Hard choices. Easy life. Jerzy Gregorek Children have a knack at highlighting your weaknesses. They will do things, both in public and in private, that will make you question your choice at having them in the first place.  They will press your buttons, find your vulnerabilities and use them at your weakest ...
Working Through What is Broken

Working Through What is Broken

Whenever I presented a workshop on Anger or Conflict, I would always begin by reminding the participants that I am teaching this stuff to myself. It was always important for me to acknowledge that I am working through the material and finding myself challenged to do the very practices I worked to show others. Conflict, ...

Your Beautiful Trauma Chapter Notes

Your Beautiful Trauma Chapter Notes Chapter 1 Lao Tse: https://www.amazon.com/Tao-Te-Ching-Laozi/dp/1535229330, “Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step” Energy Medicine Practice: Specialized Kinesiology: http://canask.org Neurolinguistic ...
If You Hurt My Feelings You Must Be Punished

If You Hurt My Feelings You Must Be Punished

If the price for disrespect, discomfort or failure is public shaming, we eliminate the very environments that build resilience, community and confidence.  Good schools don’t eliminate disrespect, discomfort or failure.  Good schools create environments that make it safe enough to tackle and practice and rehearse what to do when you are ...
What Makes You a Gaming Addict?

What Makes You a Gaming Addict?

We are on our devices too much.  We rely on all of these distractions and pings of dopamine to get us through the day.  And everytime we do that, we are loosing an opportunity to learn how to manage our big feelings, take care of our bodies, and practice relationship building. It is too much, ...
What’s It Like to Be You?

What’s It Like to Be You?

Beliefs are not an intellectual construct, they are an emotional one. Our feelings are always connected to our body – they are embedded not just in our brain or in our cognitive memories, they are embedded in the cells of our body, in our gut, and in our joints. The question, “What’s it like to ...
When Does Care Become Harm?

When Does Care Become Harm?

The mother in front of me works two jobs.  She is the sole caregiver for her two young boys.  Both of her jobs provide a substantial income.  She works very hard. Both of her boys are struggling with some of their social emotional skills, but they are excelling in their academics. Mom has both boys ...
Too Tired to Succeed – Who Takes Care of the Caregivers?

Too Tired to Succeed – Who Takes Care of the Caregivers?

I am in the classroom, teaching Kindergarten and grade one students.  I am talking about feelings. Our moments of “unkind” and “mean” happen most when we are depleted. If you are hungry, angry, lonely or tired; if you are frustrated, hurt or worried, chances are good, you will be unkind to someone. I am in 12 ...
Middle Aged Brain on Twitter

Middle Aged Brain on Twitter

            In an ever-growing attempt to acquaint myself in the digital land, I have decided to use part of my winter break navigating twitter. Still flush with my one on one tutorial with a fellow colleague, Wendy Beamish, I felt I could tackle what felt like a massive stream of ...

The Attention Economy Cheat Sheet

Emi Garzitto  Creative Edge Consulting  https://creativeedgeconsulting.com/ http://livinginpublicschoolspaces.blogspot.ca    The Attention Economy Cheat Notes  Take small steps    Repeat them daily    Reinforce success    Create consistent routines    Do less    Have less    Eat meals together with no electronic ...
Fear Can’t Win

Fear Can’t Win

I am sitting across from a client. We have worked together over the last few years so I have been able to witness some significant and courageous transformations. He has been sober for over two years. Employed,  engaged in healthy habits and routines. As with all transformations, many deaths occur. He is divorced. He is ...
Combatting Addiction With Curiosity and Community

Combatting Addiction With Curiosity and Community

The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. It is human connection. Joahan Hari     There is a classic study done on rats. They were in a sterile environment, and they were given the choice of either water or water mixed with cocaine. By the end of the study all of the mice became addicted ...

Communicating Effectively – Listening Cheat Sheet

  Pay Attention to Your Body Stay present to the person and breathe. Focus on the person with your whole body. Notice your feelings but do your best to remain focused on the other person. Keep a positive intention. Be kind. If your goal is to get even are get the other person to admit ...

Helping Children Learn in the Age of Distractions Cheat Sheet

Your Brain on Twitter – Helping Children Learn in the Age of Distractions Electronic Culture: n  Favours quick responses, quick results and efficient outcomes. n  Does not utilize our bodies and movement, which is where social, emotional learning takes place. n  Does not provide the repetitive practice required to help children learn social ...

What Is Anxiety Cheat Sheet

What is Anxiety? anx·i·e·ty noun: anxiety; plural noun: anxieties a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome. PSYCHIATRY a nervous disorder characterized by a state of excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks.   Stress ...